Nov 23, 2014

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Get Rid of The Elephant In Your Life!

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If you are living your life with a secret or a painful reality, it is not going to go away unless you begin to acknowledge it, talk about it, or do something about it.

Often, we find ourselves under circumstances (at home, work, or in a romantic relationship) that gradually become a great source of stress and sadness.  And because change can be more uncomfortable than the status quo, we choose to quietly accept it, and actively ignore it.

Your elephant might be an alcoholic partner, an abusive relationship, a child with an emotional/behavioral problem, your own depression, or a serious financial problem.  Elephants are too big to be hidden, or stuffed inside a closet.

When you fail to acknowledge the elephant in the middle of your life, you begin to dance around it, and tippy-toe around it.  It begins to take up a lot of emotional space.  It becomes exhausting.

Unless you stop and face your elephant, it will continue to own you.

Are you afraid of your elephant?

Mujer, if there is one sitting in your heart, spirit and soul, gear up and face it. Start talking. Seek support.

Own your space.

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Angélica Pérez-Litwin

Angélica Pérez-Litwin

Dr. Perez-Litwin is the Founder & CEO of ELLA Leadership Institute, a multi-platform professional development organization designed to advance the careers and leadership of women. She's the creative force behind the LATINAS THINK BIG™ national tour, sponsored and live-streamed by Google.

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  1. Anna Camacho says:

    I love the elephant post, as I happen to be going through aome of the above named. My problem is, that I have seeked help, but nothing HAS helpped. I feel stuck with no wfere to turn. I have 3 teenagers getting in trouble and nothing or no one has been able to help. This all has lead to depression and anxiety. What does one do then? How can I stay possitive when you’re surrounded by negative?

    • Carla Ramirez says:

      I love this article, Angélica. It was just lovely.
      In response to Anna Camacho, this is difficult for me to say, but it must be said. If all THREE of your teenagers are getting into trouble, the problem is not them- it is YOU.
      Children (teenagers) react according to the parenting skills their mother or father possess; or in this case, LACK.
      I suggest you seek help for yourself, learn how to be a better parent, and I guarantee you will see positive results.

      Best of luck,
      Carla M. Ramirez

  2. Carla Ramirez says:

    I love this article, Angélica. It was just lovely.

    In response to Anna Camacho, this is difficult for me to say, but it must be said. If all THREE of your teenagers are getting into trouble, the problem is not them- it is YOU.

    Children (teenagers) react according to the parenting skills their mother or father possess; or in this case, LACK.

    I suggest you seek help for yourself, learn how to be a better parent, and I guarantee you will see positive results.

    Best of luck,

    Carla M. Ramirez

  3. Great post, Angelica!

    What is the elephant and how big is the elephant in our lives that we are dealing with? Ay ay ay ay

    Anna, I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in sharing your experience.

    Carla, I would agree, that any parent always has to look at themselves, but not in a blaming way, but a proactive way, “I’m doing the best job I know how, but I know something is not working here, what can I do next?”

    And in that spirit move forward to finding the help for oneself and for the family!

    When we “parent” children, it’s actually a two way street- we help shape them, and they help shape us….

    Thanks, Carla, for commenting and having me find this post!

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