Jul 29, 2015


Put the “I” In Independence

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Independent Woman

As someone who was raised in a single-parent home, I experienced first hand how much a woman can accomplish without a man as a support system.

From an early age, all I ever saw my mother as was a housewife, as someone who had to take on this role because there wasn’t any other option. After my parents divorced,  my mother became both mom and dad. She found work in the first places she could find, doing whatever she needed to do to put food on the table and give me and my sister a roof over our heads.

Now, at the age of 26, all I’ve ever seen in my mother is independence, strength and power. A woman who could move mountains if she wanted to, and that is exactly how I feel about our generation of women today. We have the independence, strength, power, capabilities and the resources to be anyone we want. We can have a family and provide for them as well. We run multi-million dollar businesses, own and create life changing organizations, and are in the supreme court. We have created a woman’s world that men live in.

For generations, women struggled to gain independence; we lived–and still live–in a society where we are constantly told that we’re less capable and less powerful than men. However,  oftentimes those words and positions motivate us to prove such expectations wrong and to show future generations that women can and will rule the world.

So, how do we keep this independence alive? How can we make sure that we never get discouraged by anyone? How do we keep the fight going?

  • We must build goals! Build short term and long term goals. Keep journals and a time frame of how, what, why, when and where we are going to achieve these goals.
  • Stay informed and educated. You can never know too much. Learning a new craft or keeping afloat of the things going on keeps your minds creativity flowing.
  • Remain confident. Always be confident in everything you set your mind to and everything you participate in. Without confidence you cannot be independent.
  • Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. It’s how own up to them and how we react to those mistakes that makes them lessons. We must never be afraid to learn and grow.
  • Be opinionated. Always speak your mind and speak how you feel whenever and wherever.
  • Never ever allow anyone to categorize or stereotype you. You make you’re own choices, you define who you are. Never be what people expect you to be. Be better.

Remember, you are in control of your life and your destiny. You set the boundaries, you make the rules, you are responsible for your game. You can never lose.


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Cindy Cabral

Cindy Cabral

My name is Cindy Cabral, a Latina born and raised in New York City. I graduated from St. Johns University with a Bachelors in Hospitality Management and a Masters in Women and Gender Studies. I currently work for The Art Institute of New York City as a Residence Life Coordinator as well as a current writer for La Femme Latina. In college, I worked for a non-profit organization that allowed me to really tackle my passion of helping others deal with body image and self-esteem issues through the facilitation of workshops and the creating of activities that empowered young women and men.

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