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Los Piropos: Do They Make You Feel Sexy or Mad?

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The Birth & History of Piropos

“Piropos” is the Spanish word for cat-calling, flirtatious comments usually directed at women by men on the street, but it isn’t so easily defined. The word is said to be Greek in origin – (“pyropos” in Greek, means “burning face” – presumably referring to the blushing that occurs after a piropo is delivered.)

Piropos aren’t quite compliments, cat calls, or pick-up lines, and sometimes they’re a little of all those things. Some men, (though they’re in the minority), consider crafting the perfect piropo an art, but not everyone appreciates them. This type of cat-calling can be rude, cheesy, creative, disgusting, degrading, funny, offensive, sexist, inappropriate, sweet, abusive and romantic.

Before the 20th century, piropos were like beautiful bits of poetry, verbally gifted to women as they walked past. Obviously things have changed, and just as some believe “chivalry is dead”, so too are the piropos that were inspired by the heart instead of areas below the belt – at least for the most part.

According to a Time Magazine article from 1953, some time ago a pretty woman walking down the street could expect to hear words such as, “Blessed be the land, where grew the tree, from which came the wood to make the crib where you first drew breath.” Can you imagine? I think most women wouldn’t find such a lovely comment disagreeable in the least.

Unfortunately, eventually such good manners went out the window and the typical cat-calling became much cruder and less poetic. In response, some cities in Latin America tried to make piropeando illegal. One town in Venezuela actually made piropos a finable offense. This gave birth to the new piropo: “If I only had 100 bolivars!”

Cat-calling Lines

Today, the piropo lives on, seemingly unscathed. Here are a few modern examples. (We didn’t include any of the truly disgusting ones as they can be quite graphic.)

¿De que juguetería te escapaste, muñeca?
From what toy store did you escape, doll?

“Tanta carne y yo con hambre!”
So much meat, and I’m starving!

Si amarte fuera pecado, tendría el infierno asegurado.
If loving you were a sin, hell would be a sure thing.

Mi amor, si amarte fuera trabajo, no existiría el desempleo.
My love, if loving you were work, unemployment wouldn’t exist.

Si yo fuera un mosquito, ¿dónde tú quieres que te muerda?
If I were a mosquito, where would you want me to bite you?

How Women Really Feel about Piropos

When I polled a small group of my Latina friends on how they felt about cat-calling, feelings were predictably mixed. Some women feel objectified, as if they’re being treated “like a piece of meat.” An especially aggressive piropo can even make a woman feel violated or cause fear for her safety under certain circumstances. Other women welcome the comments as a self-esteem boost, finding the comments amusing or sweet. The majority of women fall somewhere in the middle and say that their feelings about piropos really depends on the situation.

Recent research by the University of Nebraska-Lincoln gives credence to these mixed feelings.

According to the study, an objectifying gaze has the potential to set a vicious cognitive cycle in motion. In the study, women who were ogled were then given math problems to solve. These women performed significantly worse than women who were not ogled. Even more worrisome, the ogled women were more likely to express a desire to continue contact with the person who had ogled them and had caused them to under-perform.

Latinas Have Mixed Feelings on Catcalling

Reaction across the blogosphere is equally mixed. Some women completely reject piropos, becoming enraged at the man’s audacity and even actively shouting back, others ignore them, but feel undressed and debased – a feeling they carry with them throughout the rest of the day, unable to shake off. Sadly, in a world that values feminine beauty over anything else, many women who struggle with self-esteem issues say they “need” piropos to feel good about themselves.

Gloria Pazmiño of the Manhattan Times newspaper writes about her experience living in “El Alto” Washington Heights, New York and the comments made to her on the streets in the summer time:

“Hollering in El Alto could make you feel naked no matter how well clothed you are. But keep your chin up. By walking with confidence you’ve already demanded respect.”

Pazmiño goes on to discuss the matter of respect, and how most cat-calling is offensive because that is what they lack.

Some women take an even harder stance and are fighting back by taking to the internet. iHollaBack.org is a website for women (and also those in the LGBT community), around the world to publicly tell their stories of street harassers and mark them on a map. Doing this, makes many feel like they’re back in control.

Another article, this one by Anna Jane Grossman for CNN, quotes a 31 year old woman from Los Angeles named Jessica, who declined to give her last name. Jessica is at the other end of the spectrum – she welcomes the piropos:

“Yeah, it’s objectifying and all, but you know, if I walked down the street and didn’t have men looking me up and down and cat-calling, I’d think, ‘Boy, I must really be getting old and dumpy.'”

Obviously the responses to piropos are just as varied as the piropos themselves.

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Tracy López

Tracy López

Tracy is a writer living outside the D.C. Metro area. Her blog, Latinaish.com, examines cultural differences she discovers as she navigates life in a bicultural, bilingual family.

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  1. I love men! I love the attention and on days where I’m feeling frumpy and dumpy, yep, it turns that around! Still, thankfully, most of the time I feel beautiful and good about myself and never need the extra love from outside of me, it’s just welcomed and appreciated!

    I actually know of a few men that can Piropo me any day- they are amazing with words and with authentic appreciation!

    Thanks for the great post! I am of the school of SMILE & SAY THANK YOU if it is a compliment. So, from the homeless man, to the construction worker, to the man on the corner drinking a coffee or smoking or whatever- I am smiling and most times saying thank you (if he’s cute, I linger… if he’s not, I’m saying thank you while continuing on my way).

  2. I hate piropos! To me they are a sign of disrespect. Men would NEVER say anything on the street to a powerful woman, say a known politician or community member (or a family member of a powerful family). They would also never dare to say anything to a woman with a man next to her, to show respect to the man and avoid a confrontation (which they are sure they would win with a woman). Men say piropos to women they believe are somehow “lower” than them- the young, the timid, the ones who seem powerless. When I don’t ignore these neanderthals, I yell back at them, yes I do. I simply say some version of: don’t disrespect me! So far they have all been intimidated and skulk away or get laughed at by their friends. I’d like to think I’ve helped the next woman that crosses their path.

  3. I love piropos as long as they don’t go to far. Like a look, but don’t touch sort of thing. Even my husband likes it when I get piropos. He likes knowing that he has what someone else wants, but can’t get.

  4. Hate them. I especially hate hearing them all of the time or when they make noises at me. I feel disrespected and like an object, not a beautiful woman.

  5. Mercedes L says:

    By no means, do I mind a cordial comment but have always felt invaded, specially if I am walking down the street and the horn of a car is beeped loudly and the men driving throw kisses in a disgusting way… I really really dislike it…. With the years, I have learned to carry on.

  6. Johanna Ferreira says:

    I honestly can’t stand them. Even if they are not rude or necessarily vulgar I still find them annoying and unnecessary. I never see the point because what woman is going to actually stop and engage in a conversation with a man who throws them a pirpo? I always walk away.

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