Jul 30, 2015


Battling the F word: Fear

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This post has no photograph. And it is on purpose. This one is about you, me, women and mothers, and it is about fear.

As women, we might have come a long way (baby…) but fear continues to have an oppressive role that weaves through all areas of our personal, professional and social lives.

No need to define fear in fancy ways here.

I’m simply talking about the type of fear that has the power to gradually vanish the core of who you are, to take away your dreams, and to keep you stuck and down. The fear I’m referring to insists on questioning everything you do, think or say. And it paralyzes you.

Fear, my fellow women is death.

When you fear taking action, taking a risk, or making changes, you escape life. When you stop thinking BIG, you become small. When you wait because you’re afraid of taking the plunge, you get stuck. When you settle because you fear failure, you have failed.

So I ask: Where did your fearlessness go? Where did you leave it behind? In your childhood? In your adolescent years? In college? When was the last time you were not afraid, worried or concerned, all the time?

Do you remember the days when fear felt exciting? Like a challenge? And motivating? What is fear doing to you today?

So I say: It’s not your boss that’s keeping you from succeeding or climbing the corporate ladder. It’s not your controlling partner or spouse that’s keeping you from being yourself. It is not the lack of clients or the economy that’s keeping you from earning the income you deserve. It is not the lack of time, or work/family balance issues that’s keeping you from achieving your dreams, or writing that book you’ve been dying to write, or setting up that new business. It is your fear. Period.

Once you realize that fear is the real culprit to all of your dissatisfaction and discontent, you will have a choice to make:

1) To let fear kill you.


2) To look at fear straight in the eyes. Come closer, face it, push it, kick it, beat it. Kill it, before it kills you.

Stop being so afraid, be fearless. Go do what you need to do.

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Angélica Pérez-Litwin

Angélica Pérez-Litwin

Dr. Perez-Litwin is the Founder & CEO of ELLA Leadership Institute, a multi-platform professional development organization designed to advance the careers and leadership of women. She's the creative force behind the LATINAS THINK BIG™ national tour, sponsored and live-streamed by Google.

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  1. YES, YES, YES!

    Angelica, such a great post about the huge DREAM crusher!

    When I stand in my own way, it is always about FEAR! And sometimes I have everything it takes to crush it, but sometimes I swept up in it and I need more help.

    And sometimes I think it’s gone for good, but when I get to roadblock I realize, here it is again- it is the roadblock!

    Thanks for this post and
    here’s to FEARLESSNESS!

    I’m not letting anything get between me and my dreams!


  2. Angelica, thanks for this wonderful post. We must learn to be fearless, to overcome our worries and concerns… even though it´s not easy most of the time.

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