Love is in the air…or maybe not.
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, it may be hard to not think about your relationship or lack thereof. To many, V-Day is just another regular day while others like to make a big to-do. In addition to the fact that not everyone is in a relationship, what about those who are in a relationship but are just not that “in love “this year? If that applies to you, here’s a tip for you and your partner during this Valentine’s Day season: COUPLES COUNSELING
Couples counseling isn’t for everyone and doesn’t save every relationship; in some cases, it’s not necessarily meant to. But if you’re unhappy in your relationship and think it’s worth saving, maybe counseling is for you. Don’t wait until your relationship is at its breaking point. Couples therapy is more effective for couples where both partners are invested to make the relationship work. You need TWO to make it work.
What to expect in therapy
In therapy, you will learn communication skills where you can effectively get your point across to your partner. For many, therapy is the first time partners actually talk about their problems after years of not doing so. Some couples may be surprised to hear how their partner feels in their relationship. In addition to being able to listen to your partner, your therapist will also help you understand one another. Understanding not only why your partner does things, but also why you do things brings you closer to one another. In the best case scenario, taking these steps to learn about your relationship will ultimately remind both of you of why you fell in love in the first place. Being reminded of your own core values and your partner’s, helps restore and build lasting relationships.
Some books that I suggest to couples in distress are Fighting for your Marriage by Howard J.Markman, Scott M.Stanley, and Susan L. Blumberg; Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson; and How to Fix your Marriage Without Talking About It by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny. Even if you are not married, you can learn effective tips in making your relationship with your partner better.
If you think that couple’s therapy will benefit you and your partner, you can look for therapists in your area by searching goodtherapy.org.