source: nanda sanu
The Balancing Nightmare
It’s one in the morning and you’re still on the computer, trying to finish that overdue project, or you’re folding that last load of laundry so your kids have clothes in the morning for school. By the time you lay down in bed you’re exhausted, your head is still spinning from a long day of running around, distractions, expectations and multitasking.
Laying down in bed — lights down and in silence — is your rare opportunity to get in touch with you. What could be a perfect opportunity to rest can quickly become half an hour of guilt-ridden thoughts, frustration and anger. We are simply wired to review our day’s performance from a glass half-empty point of view.
One of the biggest struggles of working Latinas is balancing and negotiating their family responsibilities, professional goals and personal needs.
There is an art to juggling work, career, motherhood and your personal life in a way that feels right. It starts with your head — that is, your thoughts (i.e., expectations, perceptions).
If you expect to be perfect and present in each and every role in your life, you are guaranteed to succeed at achieving total frustration.
When juggling the multitude of expectations and responsibilities of work, family and life, change your perspective. Think of your life as a series of life eras (or phases), each bringing upon new challenges and opportunities. Remember your college years? Your time during your first job? Your dating years? Your pregnant years? Motherhood with 2 plus kids? These are all life phases, which continuously evolve.
Remind yourself that each of your life moments will bring opportunities that are special or particular to that moment. Ask yourself what are you willing to trade (partially or fully) right now, in order to seize a special opportunity that has come your way.
Balancing it all is not about doing it all, it’s about learning the art of trade-offs, so you can peacefully sleep at night knowing that you’ve made some good choices for yourself and your family.
What trade-offs have you made in your life, as a working or professional woman?